Welcome to part 3 of the newest addition to the newspaper: our advice column! To connect with our readers more, we are asking them to send in questions for our panel to answer. This week our panelist Pascale Gachette, who is also a member of the marketing committee, will be answering this week’s question:

“Would you take someone back after they ghosted you?”

Gachette’s response:

Video Transcription:

Hey guys, it’s Pascale from the marketing committee. So, our questions this week is, 

“Would you take back somebody who ghosted you”?

 I feel like to answer this question accurately, I have to make two assumptions. And number one is that you guys were talking romantically since you said “ take them back” and number two, that things were going steady and that then there was a dropoff on their end. SO if somebody drops you without warning and they don’t wanna just communicate with you, like, “Hey, I don’t think this is gonna work for x-y-z reasons”. They’re probably doing it disrespectfully. I think that there’s a one in ten chance that somebody ghosts you for a real reason. And nine out of ten they’re just doing it disrespectfully, they think that you’re just that dispensable they don’t really care. So if someone views you that way, I feel like it’s very disrespectful towards yourself to take them back and above all, we’re tryna love ourselves, we’re tryna respect ourselves out here. So you taking back someone who disrespects you is probably not the best move. I wouldn’t recommend it and I probably would not do it but I would say, forgive them for sure. You can be cool with them but probably don’t take them back at that same level because having somebody so close to you and they disrespect you, is only gonna take a toll on yourself. So, good luck and let us know how it goes! 

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